I GOT IT FROM MY MAMA
When babies are first born one of the first things people ask is, “who do they look like? Mom or Dad?” It is always fun to talk back and forth trying to come to a conclusion. Once they start to get a little older while their personality is developing, we start asking “who do they act like? Mom or Dad?” As a parent, we want our kids to say someday that they got IT from their Momma or they got IT from their Dadda.
1 Corinthians 13 is a great chapter to model for our kids. On Mother’s Day 2018, Pastor Angela gives us 5 things that we can take away:
The first is to love without limits. There is a story in the Old Testament about a prophet named Hosea. God asked Hosea to marry a prostitute. She was unfaithful and left him multiple times. But he continued to show her mercy and take her back in. On one occasion, she was sold into sex slavery. What happened? Hosea purchased her back as his own. What an example of loving without limits!
This story shows that love isn’t a competition. It’s not about loving our spouses based on contingencies. We marry because we choose to love this person, and because God has called us together in this partnership. Love isn’t about what the other person can bring to the table or their status is. It’s about who they are.
The second thing that 1 Corinthians 13 tells us it to be kind and not rude. As kids grow, they inevitably pick up some rude habits. As we are parenting, we know that discipline is going to be required. We do this because we hate the action, not the child. This is exactly how God treats us. He hates the sin, but He loves the sinner.
Thirdly, we are to lead without limits. Leadership has been defined as many things, but when fully broken down, leadership is influence. Here Pastor Angela shared one of her favorite leadership definitions: “Leadership is the capacity to have an affect on the character development of a person.” Some great examples of leadership influence in scripture would be Paul and Timothy. Paul said to Timothy, “follow me as I follow Christ.” Proverbs 22:6 says to “train up a child in the way they should go, and in the end they will not depart.” Untimely, “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus” Philippians 1:6.
The next thing we are to do as parents loving our children is to speak things into existence. When we speak things into existence, we start to believe what it is said about us. In Romans 4:17 it says, “Abraham was first called a father before he actually was a father.” When we are called something, we are actually called into something.
The final thing we are called to do is laugh without fear of the future. Life isn’t to be endured. It is to be enjoyed. The future of our children is totally up to the Lord. We can do everything right and it still doesn’t work out. Pastor Angela admitted that parenting is the first time in her life where she doesn’t feel any control at all.
When we can follow these guidelines, our world as a parent becomes much less burdensome. It doesn’t necessarily become easy, but it certain lifts some weight off our shoulders. As 1 Corinthians 6:9 says “let us not become weary in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not give up.”